Motivation, Conversation. That’s what I’m thinking about today. I am currently reading The Motivation Manifesto: 9 Declatrations to Claim Your Personal Power, by Brendon Burchard. (You can get your free copy here.) It came the day before we left the states and I am quite happy it did, as it is a brilliant read. I would say the main points are personal power through living intentionally; personal freedom; understanding fear. And while everyone gives a lot of verbal time to living intentionally, this book is a gem in getting you involved. I started writing my own manifesto this morning, along with a bit of artistic flair, and this is what got me thinking about how BORING our lives have become with the invention of FB! Okay, that’s a total generalization, sort of, but think about it? How much time do you waste just taking a peek at what’s happening on your feed, and one hour later think, where did the time go? Or how much time do you spend there instead of present with the people around you? I see it all the time, and I’m guilty myself, of being glued to a screen and not being present. While still living in Memphis, my husband and I were invited to dinner one evening with a group of younger friends and the entire night, there was barely any conversation. Everyone kept checking their phones. Our host and his sister were the only two who actually talked to us. And not to make this just a young people phenomena, because I know it’s not, as one night I saw an older couple in a restaurant on their devices the entire dinner. He appeared to be on a Kindle, she poking around on the internet, i.e. FB. I don’t think they spoke two words to each other the entire evening. What happened to dinner conversation? (Actually, I think the invention of the television contributed first to the death of dinner conversation, at least in the USA).
We need to talk to each other. We need to be present in our own lives and present with those we love. I so enjoy dinner out here in France, as dinner is an event. People are not rushing home to watch television. They go out for the evening. They sit and talk. We sit and talk. I love this. Our friends from the UK who recently visited us here in Lyon, mentioned how odd they thought eating out was in the USA, as people don’t go to enjoy. They just go to eat. Then they leave. Of course in the US, restaurants expect to turn over their tables two or three times in an evening, but here, no. Here there is at most restaurants, one seating.
Where am I going with this? Let’s talk. Let’s have conversations. Let’s talk about our lives. Let’s read something new so we can talk about it. Let’s agree to disagree and have discourse on a topic without then trashing that person because they don’t believe the same as you. Or getting angry and leaving. Let’s live interesting lives that make us interesting people, that gives us something to talk about. Let’s ask questions and find out how someone is doing. Really. Let’s be present.