Hello, It’s Me!

Hello, It’s Me!

Dear Beautiful RAgers,

Hello, it’s me and I’m back. Hopefully you haven’t forgotten being subscribed to this blog. I disappeared almost two years ago after posting a guest blogger. That post appeared on March 12, 2018. Two weeks later, on the day my next post would have published, my oldest son unexpectedly died. Needless to say, my blog was the last thing on my mind. Last year, I was contemplating working on my blog again. I went to update my plugins and the whole site went white. However, two days later, my father died. I never came back to find out what went wrong. As I approach the two year anniversary of my son’s death, I have written a long post about my experience and grief. It is far too long for a blog post, so if you would like to read it, please follow this link: Losing Shawn

I am excited to be back. There is lots to tell you about, new ideas to share, and events to think about, including those big zero ending birthday years. I hope you will continue to come along for the ride. As we all hunker down to beat the Coronavirus, this is a good time to think, read, write, and just be. I’m in France and we are on complete lock-down. We can only go out for the grocery, doctor visit, or exercise. Let’s keep each other’s spirits up.

In reference to the link in this post, if you, or anyone you know is experiencing grief, please share this with them. If you need someone to talk to, reach out, I’m here. Feel free to make comments below. Take care of yourselves.

Keep RAging! 

PS: I am working on my author website if you’d like to take a look: www.janehasenmueller.com

10 Comments

  1. I have missed you Jane. Thank you for returning to us. Also thank you for sharing your sadness and grief. Love remains.

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    • Thank you. I’m glad to be back.

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  2. So glad you are back at this. The last two years have been very challenging and I know that we are both glad to be back on top. You are an inspiration to me and I know to others that have read your blog. Thank you for being so willing to share your heart and your wisdom.

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    • Thank you. That means a lot to me.

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  3. I’m so happy that you are back to writing in your blog. I cried while reading “Losing Shawn”. I am so sorry you’ve joined the club that no one wants to be a part of. I remember talking about the grief of a child’s death for your book and how hard it is to explain to someone who hasn’t experienced it. It is a very different kind of grief and I am so sorry you are experiencing it. Sadly, it will always be with you. Just a softer version. Almost 13 years later, I still have bad moments. Nothing like those first days/years though! I read something the other day that has kind of helped me – “grief is the last act of love we have to give to those we loved. Where there is deep grief, there was great love”. I would rather have the grief now than never have had the opportunity to love Jennifer. I know you feel the same about Shawn. We will get through this and make them proud of us. From the very beginning that has been my goal – I don’t want her to ask me why I wasted my life being sad when I see her again…and I know I will see her some day 🙂

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    • Thank you so much. Neither of us had any idea I would understand some day. Yes, I am glad I had the opportunity to love Shawn, than to have never had him. It’s so important not to waste this beautiful life.

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  4. Hi Jane! I’m sobbing after reading “Losing Shawn”. He will always hold a special place in my heart. I am passing this along to my sister who has lost 2 of her 3 sons and never been the same person. I think she feels guilty to be happy. I hope this will help her to understand others feelings in moving on. Enjoy France- your place looks very lovely.

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    • Thank you for reading, Donna. It makes my heart feel so good when people tell me how much they loved my Shawn. It is hard to be happy sometimes, but it is so important to keep living for those who are here. If you read the comment right before yours, she is my friend who lost a daughter in a scuba accident. She has some good things to say about living. Thank you again.

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  5. Jane, I am teary as I write this. I felt your pain through your writing. I don’t know what it’s like to lose a son. But I do know personal grief, as you know. I wish you peace and love and the ability to remember the joys of his life while you experience your grief.

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    • Jenn, Thank you for your kind wishes. I know you have had some tough loses as well. I am fortunate to have so many great memories stored in my heart from my son’s lifetime. I am ever grateful for this. Much love to you!

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